Tempest in a Teacup
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Mummy Dear Lies at Assemblies
by Tempest in a Teacup inmy zealously fanatic jw mum is aware of my current "tourist-jw" life.
what she doesn't know for sure is that she's part of the ones who brought me to this.. my mum was a quite moderate jw, she even got publically reproved once.
in our house, there was no daily text, no family study, no eating together, no preaching together, no watchtower study...even though she regularly checked my wt to see if i studied it.. being a single mother, she had a quite busy work schedule, so from the moment she woke up to the moment she went to bed, you'd better not waste a single minute of her time needlessly.
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Tempest in a Teacup
Village, I don't believe any of it anymore. Even when the interviewee wants to say the raw truth, they find ways to 'enhance' the testimony. -
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Mummy Dear Lies at Assemblies
by Tempest in a Teacup inmy zealously fanatic jw mum is aware of my current "tourist-jw" life.
what she doesn't know for sure is that she's part of the ones who brought me to this.. my mum was a quite moderate jw, she even got publically reproved once.
in our house, there was no daily text, no family study, no eating together, no preaching together, no watchtower study...even though she regularly checked my wt to see if i studied it.. being a single mother, she had a quite busy work schedule, so from the moment she woke up to the moment she went to bed, you'd better not waste a single minute of her time needlessly.
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Tempest in a Teacup
My zealously fanatic jw mum is aware of my current "tourist-jw" life. What she doesn't know for sure is that she's part of the ones who brought me to this.
My mum was a quite moderate jw, she even got publically reproved once. In our house, there was no daily text, no family study, no eating together, no preaching together, no watchtower study...even though she regularly checked my WT to see if I studied it.
Being a single mother, she had a quite busy work schedule, so from the moment she woke up to the moment she went to bed, you'd better not waste a single minute of her time needlessly.
Sporadic and awkward family studies (daily text) would begin after she got a bad conscience from a guilt trip at a random assembly. Since us kids were not used to that, no one enjoyed it; that coupled with her busy schedule would make the initiative to fizzle out after a few days...back to normalcy.
She then retired...and became an extremist, out of sheer boredom and loneliness I think. By this time, we've grown and left the house. She now spends 90% of her time reading WT publications and the bible. I mean, the whole day, my mum is sitting down reading the bible and co. She's only in her 60s.
Whenever she comes visiting, she'll try to impose a rigorous 'family study' routine. This often brings frictions between me and her. I limit to the extreme staying over visits at her house and I avoid as much as possible her long visits.
I feel that it's unfair that now that I am the one working, she'd feel I have to make time for 'us' to study together. I mean, I'll be running late to work and my mum will start an emotional blackmail about me neglecting her spiritually by not sitting down and doing the dAily text with her (for 20 good minutes, mind you).
Anyway...
We have a particularly tragic family story, which made most of us kids unsually submissive to our mother's authority while growing up; so we all got baptized, though a few later dropped out of the religion. Some of us are still in, with different degrees of zeal, with a few 'doing quite well' spiritually.
Now in her congregation, my mum is one of the "old and spiritually mature" sisters that people look up to. People literally marvel at how "she was able to single handedly raise so many kids in the truth" and now most of them are still in the truth...and they assume that it's because she actively studied with us and gave us a model to follow. Don't get me wrong though, my mum has a genuine love for God and it's something we learnt from her.
So for the past few years she's been getting quite often KH and assembly interviews as an expert on the subject of successfully raising kids in the truth.
Only problem though, there's no way she can give these lectures and not talk about the importance of a regular family study. It HAS TO be part of the script. So she invents fictitious ones, straight out of her imagination.
The first time I heard her do that, I was visiting her KH and I just couldn't believe my ears... 'really?! If you're asked to give an interview which you know is going to make you lie, why don't you politely reject the offer?', was what I thought, but I kept it for myself.
It wasn't before long that I realized this was routine for her.
Imho, she now tries to ease her conscience with a reverse method. Now, she has to get us to sit with her and study, to somehow justify her blabbing.
She has a hand in the fact that I find it so hard to believe in things coming from the religion anymore. In my naivety, she's ONE person I never would think of doing that!
I've never told her about it. But one day, in an argument we were having (about me not supporting her in her family study initiatives when she comes visiting), I told her that I don't get it when she goes about the circuit flaunting her parental skills family study wise because I have no memory whatsoever of us having any steady family study schedule. She blamed my memory and acted shocked.
I then realized (sadly) that she's done so much of it that she's begun to believe her own lies. So she knows that I'm aware of it...
...the impact it has on me however, she's not aware of...
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"Your bad attitude is evident, because you don't bring a meeting bag to the meetings anymore!"
by stuckinarut2 inyes friends.....this is the comment said to me by an elder!.
"your bad attitude is evident because you don't bring your meeting bag anymore!".
i calmly replied: "but everything i need is on the tablet now......".
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Tempest in a Teacup
A real case of tempest in a teacup!
"Your bad attitude is evident because you don't bring your meeting bag anymore!"
You, with a dramatic shocked look:
"Bad attitude brother???!!!The brothers in Brooklyn are working so hard to make these publications available for us in digital format. I sincerely thought that Jehovah will approve of my making full use of them."
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Who REALLY believed in the idea of living forever on earth??
by stuckinarut2 inseriously.....even when you were 100% in "the truth", did you really believe in living forever?
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Tempest in a Teacup
I didn't buy into it all the way. The paradise pictures always seemed way too sappy for me. Everyone smiling too much, playing with pandas and tigers.... I guess it was my skeptical nature but I never, ever visualized paradise like this
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So I did not knock on doors or anything I did for the paradise, but because I wanted to be a good daughter and not disappoint my parents.THIS!!! Oh how you took words out of my mouth!!! I was going to write these words when I read your post.
I may have believed that doctrine if these typical pictures where not attached to it. THE FANCY PICTURES completely flushed out any trace of belief I might have developped for it.
I am so sure that I could have believed the bible verses and the watchtower publications'words alone; a weird psycho-cognitive process made the pictures to automatically cancel any gram of faith I'd be tempted to put into the teaching.
I enjoyed looking at the pictures though.
They'd make my heart smile. My head and my heart screamed "too good to be true" even before I learnt that expression.
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Oppressive wolves will enter the flock....
by stuckinarut2 inok, so i politely let an elder in our cong know how i felt about the gossip and slander that has been levelled at me.. he has been pushing to find out how i feel about the events of the last few months.. i calmly replied: .
"well, i know that it was foretold that oppressive wolves would enter the flock and treat many harshly.
i stood up to such harshness against many in our cong, then i was turned on and had accusations levelled against me!
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Tempest in a Teacup
Good!
What was his reaction?
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Tempest in a Teacup
im curious what the typical witness over the age of 10 really thinks of these cartoons.
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Today's (4/12) WT study - all about Jesus
by OneEyedJoe intoday's watchtower study article is all about jesus.
this stuck out to me after a year of hanging out on here where one frequent point of criticism is that jws claim to be christians but never talk about jesus.. anyone think it's a coincidence that today was the "special talk" follow-up to the memorial?
i think not - this is the most attended sunday meeting of the year, complete with many ubms, studies, and miscellaneous other potential victims who have been subjected to a coordinated effort to pressure them into attending.
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Tempest in a Teacup
Darn it!!
I forgot too! I walked in to find the place fuller than usual and people all dressed up! I then realized the type of jw I've become...Not so long ago, it used to be a biiig deal for me.
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And so it begins...
by StarTrekAngel inwife and i have not reported a single hour of fs in 3-4 months.
while my wife is mostly doing for me (positive thing), i know she would have rather done it.
elder asked me to turn in my fs report this past week and then he added... "we need to talk".
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Tempest in a Teacup
.......a part from being told to wait on Jah there is nothing they can say.
They'll again blame it on the ever so convenient " human imperfection" and tell him that that is why Jah said he was going to start the cleaning from his house .but first, could you loan me $5000?
LOL
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And so it begins...
by StarTrekAngel inwife and i have not reported a single hour of fs in 3-4 months.
while my wife is mostly doing for me (positive thing), i know she would have rather done it.
elder asked me to turn in my fs report this past week and then he added... "we need to talk".
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Tempest in a Teacup
it's not that I don't do spiritual things. And compassionate things. And I'm happy now with that. When/if I get to the point of turning in time I will let them know.
Like this!
In that case I'd also add: I stopped submitting hours monthly because when I do it my conscience torments me a lot. Ever since I stopped reporting the hours my conscience is at peace. This may be temporary or permanent, but I don't want to violate my conscience anymore.
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Why attack?
by newqatarjob inas someone brought up as a jw and been an elder and been disfellowshipped (twice!!!
) i find it difficult to understand why ex jws have to attack the religion, yes religion, not cult or sect.
i am no longer disfellowshipped just do not want to practice anymore.
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Tempest in a Teacup
When a religion routinely attacks other religions and train its members to do the same, it is only fair that such members attack their own religion when they get the reasons to do so.
Back to the sender...